4 Steps To Practicing Forgiveness
Jeremy • Apr 4 2021
“May His favor be upon you, and a thousand generations. Your family and your children, and their children, and their children.”
As I sang the lyrics to this beautiful song, I couldn’t maintain my composure. Uncontrollable tears streamed down my face, and it felt like my whole body was shaking. I heard the Lord speaking to me, and with Father’s Day just days away, I wanted to share this in the hopes of encouraging someone else.
I heard the Lord say, “Look at your kids. You faced a crossroads in life where you and your husband had to choose the world or choose Me. You both knew that there was no in-between, or grey area, that existed anymore. Choosing me was the most difficult path, but you both trusted that pursuing Me would yield the greatest outcome. Because of the choice you both made, your children will not see the troubled times that you faced. Choosing to break the generational curses of sexual sin in both of your lives was not easy, but you were resetting your family lineage from this point forward.”
I know, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that the Lord was speaking to me. He confirmed this word to me through two other individuals. Neither of them knew of the encounter I had with the Lord until after they shared their words of knowledge with me. Plus, Deuteronomy 7:9 shares the same sentiment.
“Know therefore that the Lord your God is God; he is the faithful God, keeping his covenant of love to a thousand generations of those who love him and keep his commandments.”
My husband and I met while we were both awash in sexual sin. Neither of us was a Christian at the time. In the world, porn was an accepted norm, and we both bought into it. But contrary to secular world views, pornography did not bring us closer together. Instead, it served to tear us apart. Years of lusting with our eyes gave way to my husband nearly having an affair. That was a wake-up call for me, and I removed every ounce of pornography from our home.
Though I was now living porn-free, my husband remained engrossed in sexual sin. His behavior, especially his temper, often became the catalyst that exposed the secrets in his life. Imagine my surprise, however, when my daughter came to me one Sunday afternoon to alert me to the fact that daddy was looking at naked women.
We were at a crossroads. Things had gone too far. Either our marriage was over, or things needed to drastically change.
The healing was not always easy. Wounds that were opened during our childhood emerged. Moments, hours, and even days were at times excruciating. We had to untangle ourselves from the beliefs that had wreaked havoc on us as individuals and as a couple. About the time that we started to feel as if the healing was complete, I was offered a job at KingdomWorks Studios.
The prospect of working for a Christian-film production company was exciting, yet deep within I felt unworthy. But somehow, even in the midst of my uncertainty about moving over a thousand miles, I knew that it was God who had opened this door for me. In hindsight, God was using this to draw me even closer to Him. Though I believed our healing was nearing completion, God knew that I had not even scratched the surface in my personal life. I was only feeling healed because my husband was making progress and no longer triggering my past pain.
The first time I was introduced to the Conquer Series, a cinematic study created to help men who are battling pornography addiction, I realized that the healing journey was about so much more than my husband or our marriage.
I began to understand how the absence of a father during my early childhood created a deep wound in me. Clearly, I started to see how the sins of my parents had spilled over into my life. I even began to realize that I was cultivating a breeding ground of destruction for my own children, just in my thoughts and actions.
God asked me to embark on my own personal healing journey. I did not resist; I just couldn’t. The lives of my children were on the line, and I was tired of not really knowing who I was. With every fiber of my being, I pursued healing. I rose up and began declaring that I was not the sum of my past mistakes or the things done to me. And in doing so, I witnessed a strengthening in my marriage and in my relationship with my children.
Today, every chance we get, my husband and I talk about the miraculous healing journey that God brought us through. And dads, you can have the same happy ending that we are now experiencing. But you have to choose to work for it.
It is time to break out of the victim mentality that has been spiraling in your mind. You cannot blame everyone else for the cesspool of filth that is in your life. You are not responsible for what others may have done to you. Your job, in this moment, is simply to respond to whatever the Holy Spirit is asking you to do.
This Father’s Day, look into the eyes of your children – young or old – and find the courage and strength to fight for them. You do not have to know where to get started, as the Conquer Series will lead you through every step of the way. And thanks to Soul Refiner, a brand-new digital streaming platform, you can get started immediately.
It’s time to break the silence, not only of the past hurts you’re carrying, but also the secret sin that’s been rampant in your life. James 5:16 tells us,
“Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed.”
It is my prayer that you, too, will hear the Lord tell you that you fought the good fight and changed the lineage of your family for the better. I promise the investment is worth it.
This Father’s Day, will you make a choice that will benefit a thousand generations? Check out Soul Refiner, and get digital access to the Conquer Series today.
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